10 THINGS I WISH OUR PARENTS UNDERSTOOD!
We have all been there to see and notice the changes in our parent’s behavior towards us when we are in our growing stages. That is the time when a child needs more recognition and understanding because we are growing in a phase of life where everything feels extraordinary for us. Here are the things I wish they understood without arguing.
- Your Problems Can Affect Us too.
Growing up ain’t easy for most teenagers, especially when they hear their parents arguing about most basic stuff that can be solved by sitting in a room and communicating without shouting. They should know their kids will automatically adapt their behaviors and become violent.
So they should keep their private problems to themselves without getting the kids involved.
2. Normalize being quiet in the morning.
When we wake up from sleep half-stressed and depressed, we like to stay quiet for a few hours without saying a word. Please understand that we are not being spoiled by not giving you proper answers; we are just stressed from school or college work. We just want to stay normal and quiet without causing drama.
Don’t repeatedly ask what’s bothering us; we may not be in our comfortable phase to tell but appreciate us.
3. Treat your daughters and sons equally.
While growing up, we have noticed our parents appreciating their sons and admiring them more as compared to their daughters. This makes us feel terrible about ourselves; we just want to be treated equally with them. If your sons have more outstanding qualities your daughters can have them as well. Just support them equally. Provide them equally, and don’t doubt our guts.
4. Respect our privacy.
If we don’t come out of our rooms, please don’t come running or barging into the door, as it can upset us. We could be relaxing or reading a book. Sometimes we want to stay hidden from the outside because our rooms are like our sacred place, where everything becomes naturally normal. Staying inside doesn’t always mean we are doing something inappropriate. Trust us that we need our privacy too, just as you need yours.
5. We have feelings too.
Not every question you ask has an answer. When we seem to have a bad day, don’t blame it on our cellphones or our friends group. Yes, we can be mentally tired too, as we live in a society where everyone’s trying hard to beat everyone’s reputation. Sometimes we want to scream, and sometimes we want to cry. No matter if we are children, we could be mentally struggling as well. Don’t judge us, especially when we are in emotional breakdown.
If you want to make us feel better, don’t be rude about our situation; just simply give us space.
6. Words hurt.
Often, we come across arguments where some things go down and the talking turns into aggressive quarrels. If we are being wrong, don’t just start pointing out our faults, as it can hurt us badly. Be more patient with us and give us some time. There are a number of times when our parents say harsh words without giving them a second thought, that feels like someone pierced us with a harpoon.
so they should watch out for their words and be more respectful and patient with their kids cause all we need is understanding and affection.
7. Don’t compare our lives to yours.
We know growing up was different for you and it was a time before technology took place so things are different now. If you want your child to be as successful as others let them take their own steps and don’t hold their hands for a while. Accept what your children want to because they just wanna fit in this society like others and be recognizable. Let them decide what they want and respect it but you can be there to state the pros and cons of the things they chose but don’t convince them to do what you want them to do it’ll make us feel less appreciated.
we have our opinions too cause we were born in an era where every piece of information is one search away. Children see a world from different perspectives so every parent should understand that.
8. We Love You Even If We Are Bad At Showing.
This has to be a habit of every parent to assume things they don’t know about and most of it comes to showing affection. Now it’s different for every child to open up about how much they adore their parents because while growing up we were never taught to talk about love and relationships openly. Even when we don’t say it just know that we love you as much as you love us. We appreciate for things you do for us and we kids are like boomerangs that come back to you cause after all a child is nothing without their parents.
9. We are still learning a lot.
There is not a single child who doesn’t go through years without studying. Students take gap years as they need guidance in their future studies but in that period of time our parents think we keep wasting our golden hours just because we are “young” and we are supposed to be continuously learning no matter what! which is completely wrong. In this period of time, we could be figuring out what we want to become. Just like I did I always wanted to be a writer of my own thoughts. so there are plenty of other students who could not be studying but still learning at the same time.
10. Our Phones Are Our Partners.
The most common and basic thing that every child hears is,” your phone is the reason you are like this” or “You waste half of your day scrolling on your phone don’t you have something productive to do?”. NO!
our answers to every question are on our phones. Yes, you see us doing all that but what’s the point of judgment when you actually don’t know what we are doing? yes, we could be reading about our favorite heroes, reading articles, or listening to podcasts in other words we are still consuming and gaining the knowledge from the device that fits in our hand. And phones are not always bad the amount of information you get from literally about anything is one single click away. So understand that kids from this generation are always on the verge of gaining knowledge by all means necessary.
So, these are the 10 most common things I wish my parents understood easily without getting hesitant.
